"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes," so says Charles W. Swindoll, an American writer and clergyman.
This quote says a lot about how to get through the obstacles that life often throws in our way. There isn’t anyone on this Earth that has gotten to where they are with having to battle their way through some tough times. Certainly there are some that have had to take on more than their fair share, and they have still become successful. This is not to say that everyone chooses to hedge forward when they run into another road block. That is their choice.
Yes, choice, a person makes a conscience decision to either fight their way through obstacles or let the obstacle beat them. Successful people make the choice to fight their way through. There is another saying that goes, "What ever doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger." There is truth in that sentiment. You are the person you are today because of the experiences that have taken place in your life and how you chose to react to them. Sometimes life changing events hit us very unexpectedly, such as a divorce.
No one gets married planning to get divorced, but it happens. Some couple mutually agrees that it is time, other couples… well it comes as a surprise, often leaving the one that is surprised feeling as though their life is over. Believe it or not there is a silver lining in everything that happens in our lives. It is our mission to find that silver lining, to learn from what is taking place and grow. In a divorce, often people go through a phase of self discovery, where they are amazed at what they didn’t know about themselves… and their spouse. Many people come out of divorce stronger, better then what they were before.
A person that has been abused can go through the same transformation, once they make a conscience choice to no longer be a victim. Your abuser may have convinced you that you deserve what is happening to you. They probably told you that you couldn’t do better without them, that no one would ever love you and you were lucky to have them. You can take control of your life back. You can make the decision to be a stronger person then what you were before. You can preserve.
A wise person once said that "No matter how hard you have it, there is always someone out there that has it worse than you do." While many people don’t like to hear that when they are going through tough times, it often does make them stop and think. Take a look at what you have in your life to be thankful for, what it is that you have that is worth fighting for… what motivates you to go forward. Move the road blocks, don’t let them stop you.